“Information about abuse inflicted during childhood is recorded in our body cells as a sort of memory, linked to repressed anxiety.”
Alice Miller, renowned psychologist, psychoanalyst, and advocate for healing childhood traumas, wrote this in 1997.
The trauma that we experience during childhood impacts our bodies on a CELLULAR level. It alters the course of our life.
“If, lacking the aid of an enlightened witness, these memories fail to break through to consciousness, they often compel the person to violent acts that reproduce the abuse suffered in childhood, which was repressed in order to survive.”
Maybe all of us weren’t “abused”, by the harshest definition, and maybe we don’t all feel compelled to engage in the “violent acts” that come to mind when we think of the term “violent acts”.
We all have our very OWN definition of “abused”. What matters is how OUR experience affected OUR truth.
If we ***felt*** abused, weren’t we then abused? Or, if we felt neglected, weren’t we then neglected? If we felt unloved, weren’t we then unloved?
An ‘Enlightened Witness’' is a person who is innately sensitive and aware of the experiences of other children, and who chooses to hold space for other children of abuse and neglect.
Holds space for the grown-up-women versions of those children who were abused and neglected, who then turned to food so that they could begin feeling loved, cared for, and soothed.
As children, the food made us feel less anxious, less shameful, less guilty.
As grown ups, with grown up cells, holding childhood trauma, all we feel is more anxious, more shameful, more guilty. Unhappy with the body that we live in.
The beautiful part about this story is that WE WERE BORN WITH the magical skills we needed to navigate through our relationship with food. Before the trauma, we knew how.
We can be reminded of these skills and develop them now, as grown-ups! It is never too late to reinvent your magic!
OG Enlightened Witness, at your service!
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