You Are Not the Problem, Your Diet is the Problem.

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“Just eat the cake!”, my therapist said.

I had called her from the bakery aisle of the grocery store, in a state of absolute mental turmoil over whether or not I should honor a craving that my body was experiencing.

“But I’m afraid that I’ll eat the whole cake! If I eat the whole cake, I’ll get SO FAT!”

“Have you ever eaten a whole cake before?”

“Not a WHOLE cake, but close.”

“And what happened when you did that?”

“I felt sick and probably threw up.”

“Ok, and what else?”

“I don’t really remember anything else happening, I just felt terrible.”

“So, that time that you almost ate a whole cake didn’t make you SO FAT?

“No, it took more than that one cake to make me SO FAT.”

“So go ahead and eat a slice of the cake for dessert today, if you want it.”

I had this conversation with my therapist in 2006, and I credit this conversation as being one of the major ‘a-ha’ moments on my journey to practicing magical eating.

There are biological, neurological, and hormonal reasons why restricting ourselves from food and dieting don’t provide us with forever weight loss and weight stability.

The problem is that in our society, we are fed this notion that the only way to achieve health is to actively engage in restrictive, dieting behaviors. It’s just not true, and there is a body of research to prove that it’s not true.

There is another way. It’s non-restrictive, it honors your needs, it listens to you as an individual, and you can personally grow exponentially larger than a scale could ever measure as a result.

You can learn more about how I teach my clients about the freedom of Magical eating by subscribing to my VIP list. If email isn't your thing, I get it! Head over to Facebook instead, and join my closed, ladies-only group. There is a Magical group of ladies over there, just waiting to pull you into the Sisterhood, with shared experiences around eating, dieting, and our relationships with food.   

Five Reasons Why You SHOULD Just Eat the Cake (If You Want the Cake)

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For women who find themselves struggling to lose weight and feel "better", the most logical solution in our society is to go on a diet! If we go on a diet, we'll lose weight forever, and we'll feel better forever, right?

Wrong!

A diet plan may help you to temporarily reduce your weight, but research has shown that diets don't help us to maintain that weight loss over a long period of time. In fact, studies have shown that rather than maintaining the weight loss, we actually tend to gain back the weight that we lost plus MORE weight in the long run. The problem with dieting is multi-faceted, but at the crux of the problem is that diets just aren't designed for long-term weight loss.

Companies (and people) who build diet plans and sell diet products are not in the business of helping you permanently lose weight--they want you to be a customer for life! The process of regaining all of the weight that you lost within the first 6-12 months of the diet (plus some MORE, possibly), is an inevitable part of the diet plan itself.

Dieting is not the answer. 

Here are my five reasons why you should just eat the damn cake (and not judge yourself for it):

  1. DIETERS EAT MORE THAN NON-DIETERS, WHEN DISTRACTED.

According to Dr. Traci Mann, author of "Secrets From the Eating Lab", and someone who has been conducting research about diets and dieting behaviors for over 20 years, 

We’ve conducted studies where we have brought dieters and non-dieters into the lab, and distracted them a little bit. What we have found is that when distracted, dieters eat more than non-dieters. In fact, distraction only affects how much dieters eat. A simple little thing like that tells you that if you’re trying to resist eating, the subtlest things can mess you up. All these little things cause dieters to fail in resisting food that don’t really affect people who aren’t dieting.

2. YOUR METABOLISM WILL THANK YOU FOR THE CAKE.

All of the rumors are true--when we engage in dieting behaviors that include food restriction, our body becomes more efficient in processing calories. The less calories we take in, over time, the slower our bodies process the calories. The beautiful thing about our bodies is that when we consistently decrease our calorie intake, our bodies actually become SUPER efficient at utilizing the calories, and our bodies actually tend to have even MORE calories left over! Sadly, those leftover calories will be stored as fat, and that has the opposite effect than intended.

3. YOUR HORMONES WILL THANK YOU FOR THE CAKE.

When we lose body fat, the hormones that help our bodies to feel full actually decrease in production. This means that the more body fat we lose, the hungrier we will likely feel, and the less likely we are to feel full. That is also counterproductive to the weight loss that we're striving for!

4. YOUR BRAIN WILL THANK YOU FOR THE CAKE.

    Ever notice how, when you're on a diet, food just seems to be EVERYWHERE? It's as if you're all of a sudden surrounded by food, it all looks and smells delicious, and you want to eat all of it. This is because our brains are programed to do this! When we're restricting ourselves of food, our brains and bodies are literally trying to save us from dying. This neurological response that we feel to 'EAT ALL OF THE THINGS!' is basically just our bodies doing their jobs. 

    5. YOUR SELF CONFIDENCE WILL THANK YOU FOR THE CAKE.

    If you are living in a perpetual state of "Diet", you are perpetually also in a state of restriction. Arguably, even if you aren't actively engaging in a diet plan, you are probably running through the same old inner dialogue:

    "You shouldn't eat that."

    "That is going to make you fat."

    "I hate grilled chicken...but I'll eat it anyway because it's 'healthy'"

    So, even though you haven't committed to the 'next best thing', or the 'old best thing', or the 'high fat/low carb/raw/vegan/gluten free/etc.' diet plan that you read about online yesterday, your brain is still churning out that same tired playlist about what a failure you are at dieting, and how you have no willpower.

    Being 'successful' on a diet plan has nothing at all to do with you. Diets are not designed for success. Thankfully, there is a better (Magical) way!

    You can learn more about how I teach my clients about the freedom of Magical eating by subscribing to my VIP list. If email isn't your thing, I get it! Head over to Facebook instead, and join my closed, ladies-only group. There is a Magical group of ladies over there, just waiting to pull you into the Sisterhood, with shared experiences around eating, dieting, and our relationships with food.   

    I can't wait to talk to you about it!

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